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| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 16 2015, 11:39 PM |
| I was just in the Lounge of a another forum that I go on,...the thread question was "Do you have a foot fetish?" Almost every one of the posters think it's either "not a turn on", "disgusting", or "perverted"....of course now, many of them have "shoes and socks" fetishes as well as the well known "butt" and even "armpit" fetish... I know the saying goes "to each his own", and all that jazz, but really now.. I didn't bother posting a comment...these guys were all so alien to me. i guess i live in my own cocoon, and amidst my fellow foot fans here, but can't imagine their perspective on feet...I don't even bother with them, much less even post a video or anything...it would be like casting pearls before swine It's like some of the weirdo's who post vile and insulting stuff on You Tube, they're a minority however, not every damned one of them, like on this particular forum. To not appreciate the beautiful, sexy and dirty soled bare feet of a lovely woman walking in public is unfathomable......what say you, my fellow foot fans? |
| Posted by: Hal Heaven Feb 17 2015, 07:55 PM |
| My experience has been that even the most open-minded people at first think foot-fetishes to be quite bizarre and weird (especially if they have never had any experience with this). Many people actually don't know much about it (or fetishes in general) and they have quite strange stereotypes/prejudices/fears, plus they also tend to mix up fetishes with other sexual-activities. It is best to talk to them about it and explain what it really is (and the different aspects). I've noticed that quite a few people (especially women) even become really curious in foot-fetishes and start paying much more attention to their feet (or the feet of others) after they realise that it is completely harmless and that many foot-lovers are extremely polite & charming human beings Regarding foot-fetish-bashing on the internet: Most people on the internet act like jerks behind the anonymity of their computer keyboard and just let off steam because they are frustrated with their pathetic lives. It's best just to ignore them. -Hal- |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 17 2015, 11:19 PM | ||
Hal, I agree, as i did again today when I looked in on that thread,...today one guy admitted to the mildest form of foot fetishism....nothing that would appeal to or interest anyone here in City Feet The word "pervert" and "sicko" was used to bombard the guy. One guy said the female feet were "disgusting"...and that "feet were made to just walk on", etc.,.. And quite contrary to being, or feeling stigmatized by these type's use of such terminology, I, on the contrary truly feel that THEY are the maladjusted ones...the one's that wouldn't get turned on by a lovely female walking barefoot in public. I consider THEM to be quite weird, as though the vernacular that they've been using applies to themselves...not us.[B] |
| Posted by: Hal Heaven Feb 18 2015, 11:30 AM |
| I don't expect anyone to share my longing for bare female feet but I do expect everyone to respect my sexual preferences. I don't want to waste my time on bigotted people. It's 2015 and we should all have an open mind. -Hal- |
| Posted by: ewanbramley Feb 18 2015, 12:54 PM |
| Well said Hal, and I completely agree with you about being open minded in these modern times - Unfortuantely when it comes to feet, most people just arent. What's even more unfortunate is the fact that you only really have to spend 30 minutes or so on Facebook, Twitter or any number of other social media sites to work out why people have a problem with us. The number of inappropriate comments that are passed out to anyone who even hints at the word "feet" is just unreal. |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 18 2015, 02:51 PM | ||
This is one of a plethora of reasons that I don't go on Facebook....I dissolved my FB account for a variety of reasons... This a reason that I only talk feet,...the sensuality/sexuality of a beautiful barefoot girl with my compadres on City Feet. I used to go on the Mouse Pad,but they're just about as infantile and uncontrolled in their lusts as some of those idiots on You Tube and FB that refer to jacking off on the model's toes, etc., they also prefer shots of sanitized, pinkish, "display-case" type of feet...like the model came in with shoes and socks,had a few pictures taken, then put her shoes and socks back on and scurried away. A far cry from the natural beauties on CF and in my past in public places like grocery stores, and other public places. I don't understand nor waste any time on these offensive assholes. |
| Posted by: DBF Feb 18 2015, 03:30 PM |
| I don't think that the hostility has anything to do with foot fetishism. Some people are cruel and vindictive by nature and will go after anything that they perceive as a vulnerability. Unless you enjoy getting caught up with trolls, the best thing to do is avoid them. The only way to win is absolute silence. What ever you say can and will be held against you if stoop to their level and become just as vindictive and nasty as they are, they turn around and act like a victim of your bullying. That's why I like silence, absolute silence, to completely disengage and cut them off. If they want to make an ass of themselves, then let them. Napoleon said "Never interrupt your enemy when they are making mistakes" |
| Posted by: Southerncrossfire44 Feb 18 2015, 04:36 PM |
| I think everyone has made good points so far. The best advice? Do not feed the trolls. I actually like the Mousepad okay, though I would agree that they are more about the "display case" studio feet than the natural outdoor look we enjoy here. I think the Pad has some interesting discussions, and their posting user base is larger than it is here. As far as the anti-foot fetish brigade goes, there's a specific group that is surprisingly hostile. That would be the lifestyle barefooters, pretty much exemplified by what used to be called the Dirty Sole Society, and is now the Society for Barefoot Living. I get that the female members don't want to be harassed by clueless jerks who send extremely inappropriate comments, but the attitude of the "Society" toward all foot fetishists/enthusiasts is very dismissive. They always complain that they're not accepted as barefooters, and they wish they wouldn't get kicked out of stores and restaurants just for being a little different, but they treat foot fetishists like the scum of the earth. Isn't that just a bit hypocritical? I mean, they look down on us, and we're the one group that would actively support and encourage their public barefooting. Well, the women, anyway. I don't care what the guys do. ;-) |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 18 2015, 04:54 PM | ||
How right you are! This forum I'm on is called The Lounge,...and the subject of feet is never brought up,....except on rare occasions when a thread like this one...about feet fetishism is brought up. I never, never,ever post a thing to them, and wouldn't even think of posting a pic of one of the lovely CF models. However,someone did post a pic of that gorgeous brunette barefoot Romanian girl with the Henna designs on her legs that was circulating a few years ago. That.oddly enough got a good response,though the guy was fantasizing her wearing 'effin' pumps...oh, those are the weirdo's,....AND judgemental weirdo's of the worst kind. They're on my ignore list though, from now on. |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 18 2015, 05:02 PM | ||||
I have to amend my post somewhat, because via someone else's FB acct, I have access to City Feet's Facebook page.....believe me.it's the only thing on FB worth visiting. |
| Posted by: DG2001 Feb 20 2015, 02:44 AM |
| This is really a very interesting thread on a fascinating topic. I have nothing against gay people, but I consider amazing that people in general are far more understanding and supporting on a guy who has a "fetish" on other guys than on a guy who has a healthy interest, delight or fascination on barefoot women. Actually I think that the term "fetish" is wrong regarding to female feet, as they are not "inanimated objects" like shoes, lingerie, etc. Talking personally, more than being interested in female bare feet, what I actually like is to see a pretty girl who happens to walk barefoot, just naturally, casually. So I do not consider myself a "foot fetishist" but rather an "aretifist". Let's think positive: I guess that in time this will become more accepted, and that, some day, girls willl realize that they look even sexier when walking barefoot. |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 20 2015, 11:48 AM | ||
That was an intelligent and enlightening response to my thread topic DG2001! I had intended to include your points originally but I don't think I could have quite as succinctly as you did! An attraction to an attractive woman's feet certainly is not a "fetish"...absolutely for the reasons that you've given. I make the qualifier "attractive woman" because I certainly am NOT interested in seeing just anybody's feet...in other words, the mere sight of the human foot does not necessarily "turn me on", i.e., there are many, many women who should ALWAYS keep their feet covered, and I am NEVER interested in seeing a man's feet, either bare or in sandals, flip flops, etc., .. I am definitely an "aretifist"...and thank you for tipping me off to this term.... When I see an attractive woman going barefoot...I don't necessarily equate "attractive" with "beautiful", though going barefoot in public amplifies even a rather plain Jane into an attractive woman...instantly. I not only appreciate her feet..as though indeed thay were separate objects, divorced from her face and body, but rather, as lovely, erotic parts of a lovely "whole" package. I find it ironic at times that there are women who do go barefoot in public yet react with scorn as well as hostility to see a man looking at her feet (looking discretely that is) as though she buys into this "if you like feet, you're weird" stuff herself. It's highly ironic and puzzling because she must have no idea how unbelieveably sexy a barefoot female in public is. That's a reason why being discrete in appreciating her barefootedness should be so important to a man. A drooling, leering, out of control type of male reaction could turn the girl off from going shoeless in public altogether. Like you, and I remember the good old days when this happened here where I live, I loved the sight of a girl, seemingly oblivious to everything, and certainly oblivious to the conventions of society, casually going about her business, whatever it was, barefoot in public. Grocery shopping used to be such a treat in those times. Even the post office, the drug store, even in bygone days, girls hitchhiking barefoot....but those days, here, where I am, are long gone.[B] |
| Posted by: dougiezerts Feb 20 2015, 05:22 PM |
| Sometimes, I feel that our society is more accepting of gay men than it is of men who are attracted to women's feet. And yet, I've read that as many as 20% of all men have foot fetishes! |
| Posted by: Hal Heaven Feb 20 2015, 05:29 PM |
| ^ It is roughly 5%, and that also includes fetishes that are (loosely) connected to the foot fetish, e.g. trampling, crushing, giantess, stocking & socks, shoes & boots, etc. Even 5% means there are a theoretically over 100 million men on this planet who are in some way or another into feet |
| Posted by: Feetosopher Feb 20 2015, 06:09 PM |
| IMMO it's a general issue stemming from lack of tolerance for difference and from narrow-mindedness. I am always upset in seeing that fewer and fewer people apply the "live and let live" approach I love so much. A lot of people, especially on social networks (where they can be "sheltered" by anonimity and/or by no actual contact with other people), need to show that they fight for or against something/someone. Now, I am fully aware to be in a minority and that my enthusiasm for barefoot women (female feet detached from the "owner" mean little to me) is rather uncommon.. I have no intention to "convert unbelievers" and I have nothing against men who aren't into barefoot women.. I simply ignore them.. so I really cannot understand why these men should fight against me.. what harm am I doing to them? I share with my dear friend Southerncrossfire44 a long experience of the "barefooters vs. bare (female) feet enthusiasts" friction.. and I saw it reach really nasty confrontations. This is even more frustrating, as basically you get despised by the very women you love so much (I have never paid attention to male barefooters' complaints about us "foot pervs" This said, it's not true that all people on social networks are assholes. I am on Facebook, DevianART, Tumblr, YouTube, Flickr, Fetlife.. and I have found a lot of people there who appreciate what I do, and who share my enthusiasm for barefoot women. Some of the greatest female barefooters on the planet, like Olga Gavva, Cecilia, Melissa Lynn, Eva Takacs, my model RED-X (a.k.a. Ariel Barefoot) are on Facebook, and are super-friendly towards people who find their bare dirty feet sexy. Sadly the trolls are everywhere, in both virtual and actual social contexts.. DBF is ultra-right.. just IGNORE them.. or even tell them they are right.. they are simply great at making a fool of themselves.. |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 20 2015, 08:02 PM |
| Even in an upscale grocery store in my area, Publix, they seem to have some contradictory standards...on the entrance to the store is the expected "shirt and shoes required" notice, yet one day they allowed admittance into the store a grossly overweight woman with her boyfriend/husband,...she had a bikini on...and spike high heels..(I would have had no desire to see her feet anyway), but God forbid a chick coming into the store barefoot....(!!!) I remember in that very store back in the 90's seeing a young lady without shoes, during the time of year that you can walk on the pavement without burning your feet...and she she was FINE looking, with t-shirt and shorts. This happened all the time in the "less upscale" grocery stores. On one occasion, a barefoot beauty and her husband were in a store shopping together, and there were guys noticing her...me included...but in a discrete way. Oh yeah,...guys are attracted to feet in a big way. Feetrosopher, the girls, as I mentioned in an earlier post, that take offense to their feet being looked at in public amuse the hell out of me. What are they thinking anyway? It doesn't occur to them that their unshod feet make them ultra-sexy to normal men? In the good ol' days, the smiles you'd get in return from a girl who noticed that you must have been admiring their feet were so cool. I have always found female feet sexy and attractive, but just as you say Feetosopher, I don't think of the feet as inanimate objects divorced from the lovely entity as a whole. Rather, I use a term that my friend DG2001 introduced me too,...I am an "aretifist".....someone who admires the bare female feet as parts of the whole, lovely woman...and if anything, instead of making her feel uncomfortable, as a pervert would make her feel...I would wish to make her realize that I hold her in the highest esteem that I can hold for a woman,...that of a free spirit, exercising what should be her God given right as a free person..to merely go barefoot in public, black soles and all,thereby contributing beauty to the world.[I] |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 20 2015, 08:08 PM | ||
Feetosopher, this "barefooters vs. bare (female) feet enthusiasts" is intriguing to me..educate me a bit about that. If it's what I think you mean, it's barefooters (girls who go barefoot ALL the time) and the barefoot enthusiasts...(girls who go barefoot publicly on occasion)? If that's the case, let me tell you that I LOVE them both,...and neither ones occur ever where I live. |
| Posted by: Southerncrossfire44 Feb 20 2015, 08:51 PM |
| I don't want to speak for the Feetosopher, but since he was backing up my point, I'm pretty sure the barefooters are those people who go barefoot as some sort of lifestyle statement, and can be rather militant about it, while the barefoot enthusiasts are the guys like us. Basically, they don't see anything sexy or erotic about going barefoot, but they scorn us because we do. |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 20 2015, 09:11 PM | ||
Oh, ok...as a matter of fact, I know now what you mean! Once on You Tube, I came across a series of vids about a young lady who lives the "natural life" in Costa Rica...and part of that natural life includes her going barefoot 24/7. Some guy posted something about her being sexy with her dirty, natural feet and all, and he received a barrage of scorn from SEVERAL posters...I don't know if the girl in question joined in, but they were raking him over the coals for even SUGGESTING that there was any implication of sexiness in her going barefoot all the time...."you Infidel," they were saying,...making the guy out to be a pervert or worse...it was ridiculous. It wasn't like those types that post "I'd like to cum on your toes" or anything...it was a really mild comment...a compliment really. I think that's the militants that you're referring to. |
| Posted by: Feetosopher Feb 21 2015, 05:07 PM | ||
Correct interpretation, amico! |
| Posted by: DG2001 Feb 21 2015, 09:48 PM | ||
Yes, that's a fact. Our society considers homosexuality a normal thing. A man who has sex with another man is considered normal and must be respected, even if the couple kisses in public in front of small kids and parents have a hard time explaining their little children what's happening. Mainstream movies and TV series even encourage this behavior, a child can have two mums or two dads and it's OK, it's funny and it's socially accepted. But a man who has an attraction to pretty women who happen to walk barefoot is a pervert, is a sicko, a weirdo and must be scorned, no matter how gentle and polite he might be. Actually I think that most male barefooters in SBL are gay. It's OK, please do not misinterpret me, I am not "anti gay" and I don't mind their sexual preferences at all. As Hal well stated, "It's 2015 and we should all have an open mind. ", and as Southerncrossfire44 said, "Do not feed the trolls". |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 21 2015, 10:51 PM | ||||
I think you're right DG,...I myself am reluctant even with friends and certainly with family to expouse my love for the sensuality of female feet....but I'm sure that "coming out" if I were gay would be okayed without much hesitation. This world is turned around unfortunately...and the mere pretense of a reason for the "No Bare Feet" signs might be explained as a legal concern that if a girl was to pick up a splinter, or a tiny shard of glass in one of her feet, that a lawsuit would ensue gives the store owners the "right" to put up their warnings on the doors saying "no shirt, no shoes, no service". Just maintaining a love of the sight of a barefoot female is to risk being misjudged (in most cases) as a pervert, or a potential molester or something. It's a dismal reflection of out society today. This is one of the reasons I love City Feet so much and Russia's comparatively laid back, nonobtrusive attitude towards female bare feet. The models are looked at, no doubt, but the prevailing feeling of the public is cool and very tolerant..and I love that. I believe that most males...sexually healthy males that is, find an attractive woman to be a real turn on, but the very act of a female going barefoot in society, with all the prohibitions against it, must take real courage. Barefoot enthusiasts shouldn't be mislabled as the perverted types who post about "cumming on your toes"...in fact, I despise uncool, uncontrolled types like that who have probably helped to intimidate many girls into thinking twice about doing what used to be a very cool, laid back, innocent thing like shopping and participating in other activities barefoot. Being laid back and cool, ...respectful to a barefoot girl used to be the norm back in the "good old days" here in this country. Being attracted to a barefoot girl in public is a very healthy thing, in my view, and I'm sure it's the view of most of my fellow posters. |
| Posted by: Hal Heaven Feb 22 2015, 05:41 PM |
| It's a good thing that some parts of society seems to be getting less and less homophobic. Now it would be great if fetishes would be accepted with the same kind of open-mindedness, but I fear it will still take another 50 years or so... -Hal- |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 22 2015, 08:08 PM | ||
Where I am, even in warm weather, barefoot girls seem to have been outlawed... you would expect, even still, to see one occasionally in a laundromat, where I was this morning, but not even there. There's some kind of aesthetic that has unfortunately taken over,....far from the freer and easier times in the 80's and 90's when barefoot girls in grocery stores, convenience stores, and other public places was okay, cool and tolerated with no big deal made. I sure hope for a swing back to that previous mindset and attitude...at least in my lifetime. |
| Posted by: pheet Feb 27 2015, 05:53 PM |
| oh yeah i remember those days to when you would see those girls at the laudromat,grocey stores,7-11stores(thought i was the only one)now those to as time has gone by has vanish.but i did see lots of them in 2007 in miami,i posted some pic's here a while back when i was on vacation down. |
| Posted by: michael0218 Feb 27 2015, 06:46 PM | ||
What time of year in Miami? |